And if it’s not there, she’s not going to make the effort to take things further, and she’ll let your calls and texts fade to the background. If women are not following up with you, it’s likely that she didn’t feel a strong connection.Įven if she was attracted to you at some point, attraction is fleeting- but a REAL CONNECTION is memorable. You’re scrambling for anecdotes and the right questions to ask so you can get to know her and make a good impression.Īnd all the while she’s sitting there thinking, “This guy is stuck in his own world – he’s not really getting me at all. You’re frustrated by your inability to relate to her. You get so wrapped up in your own thoughts that you aren’t actually getting what she’s thinking and feeling, and what she needs in order to feel genuine attraction and connection. The problem in both the above challenges is simple. THE PROBLEM IS THAT WE’RE STUCK IN OUR OWN WORLD And you’re not sure what to do to fix it.
With each failed connection, you begin to get more and more jaded, and it seems to actually be getting harder, instead of easier, over time. Is she really busy, or not feeling well or somehow missed the email, text or voice mail? Or is she just not interested in you and afraid to admit it?Īnd furthermore, why is it such a power imbalance? Why are YOU the one bending over backwards, agonizing over when or whether to text her next, and willing to move YOUR schedule around, when she’s not making time or space to see you? Should you text her again? Should you wait longer? Should you call instead? What if you stick yourself out there only to have her reject you WORSE? But that excitement turns to frustration and disappointment when days go by after you text her with no response. You’re excited because you’ve met an amazing woman.
OR is it possible that your attention simply hasn’t been TRAINED to focus on what matters most? More on that in a moment.ĬHALLENGE #2: She Flaked. WTF?Īre you destined to repeat this torturous encounter for the rest of your life. It’s just that now, when it matters to you most and it really COUNTS, it’s not showing up. What makes it worse is that you KNOW you’re a great guy, with a lot to offer! With your friends, or other women you’re not attracted to, the doorway to your sense of humor, charisma and creativity opens automatically, like magic. In those moments, I would just push on with the small talk, but what I REALLY wanted to do was take a SLEDGEHAMMER to that invisible fucking POLITE AND CORDIAL WALL between me and her, and SMASH IT TO PIECES.īecause I KNEW that an amazing connection was so CLOSE, RIGHT THERE ON THE OTHER SIDE, that there was actually a DOORWAY to a place of REAL DEPTH AND RICHNESS OF CONNECTION.but I just couldn’t quite find the edges of the doorway to open it! And so we BOTH remain stuck in this maddeningly superficial world of cordial, mind-numbing small-talk. She checks her watch, maybe her cell phone, and gives you that polite smile that tells you she’ll be nice for the rest of the date but you’re not going to see this one again. You can feel her interest waning with each passing minute. You make small talk to buy yourself some time. You can’t think of a single clever or witty thing to say.
Maybe you just figured you’d “wing it.” But as her eyes lock with yours, you feel a burning in your gut. Maybe you’ve rehearsed what you’re going to say or what you’re going to ask. You’re nervous because she’s gorgeous and you can barely believe that you’ve got this shot to get to know her.to connect with her.to make an impression on her. Well, I’ll start by addressing some of the challenges you might face: and you’re probably wondering, how is it relevant to ME?
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